Have Some ‘Me Time’
Often people find themselves in this unfamiliar situation that they didn’t expect to happen. This can be overwhelming and can create some anxiety around the sudden uncertainty in your life.
Due to this,. it’s important to take some time out for yourself and get to grips with your separation and divorce. Giving yourself time will also help you to identify the factors that you’re finding the most stressful, for example being left without financial support. Once you have regrouped and identified these factors, you can then take steps to eliminate them. This may include courses of action, such as getting a Financial Order to make sure that you’re financially protected.
Create a Journal
Keeping a journal where you can write down all your thoughts and feelings could help you to release all the negative thoughts that are trapped in your head. This means you can shift some of those stressful feelings, especially if you’re honest with yourself.
This is a method which is actually recommended by the NHS as a way of helping to reduce anxiety. It can help to provide clarity, identify patterns, reveal emotions and process your decisions. It can also help us to become more flexible and accepting in our thinking, something which is essential when navigating a divorce.
Get Plenty of Rest and Sleep
Feelings of stress and upset may keep you up until the early hours of the morning, but one of the key ways to decrease stress is by getting between 7 and 9 hours of sleep a night
If you don’t get enough sleep, you’ll feel mentally and physically drained and not enough rest can negatively affect your mood. Trying to keep a positive mental attitude will help you to see your divorce as an opportunity for a new beginning and getting lots of rest will help you with this.
Stay Healthy and Hydrated
It can be really easy to fall into the ‘pitfall’ of comfort eating and drinking alcohol to make the feelings of upset temporarily go away. It’s important not to beat yourself up about this but make sure it doesn’t become a habit because these things can affect your mood and dehydrate you.
One of the main ways to reduce stress is to stay hydrated because this will reduce feelings of tiredness. Studies have also found that exercising releases positive hormones, which will boost your mind. But if you’re not feeling up to it, long walks can soothe and calm your mind, so you can think clearly and constructively.
Talk About How You Feel
Bottling up feelings of distress will make you feel worse and so it’s important to tend to your emotional needs as well as your physical needs.
Speaking to your family and friends might make you feel better about your entire situation. If you can’t speak to family or friends, then you could consider arranging an appointment with a professional, such as a counsellor, for example.
Keep Your Expectations Realistic
With divorce comes a lot of change and so you may find it helpful to make a list of all the things that you want to achieve. It’s important to be realistic when thinking about what you want the outcome of your divorce to be or you might end up fighting a losing battle that will make you feel worse.
Regularly looking at your expectations and updating your checklists will make you feel in control and calmer about your divorce and all that comes with it.
Get Legal Advice
When you start your divorce, you might understandably want to know what your financial rights are and what you’re entitled to. But this will be different for each couple, so make an appointment with a Divorce Solicitor to put your mind at ease and answer your questions about all aspects of the divorce process. By getting the answers you want, you will gain clarity and feel certain about what will happen with your children and your finances and what your future will look like.
Stay Involved
It is important for you to speak to a Divorce Solicitor about any queries you have throughout the divorce process, rather than getting information online or anecdotally through friends as this may turn out to be inaccurate or misconstrued.
Every divorce case is different so only the Divorce Solicitor working with you on your case can give you the correct information and the answers that you need.
How We Can Help
At Simpson Millar we understand the challenges that come with a relationship breaking down, but rest assured that our Family Law Solicitors will always deal with your case in an empathetic and friendly way. We will always use our professional expertise to achieve the best possible outcome for you.
If you require representation, help or assistance in your divorce and are looking for legal advice, help and assistance, our friendly team of experts in this particular area can be contacted on 0808 239 3465. Alternatively, you can request a call back.
Additionally, if you find that you have been affected by any of the issues raised in this article, please do not hesitate to seek support which can be found through several organisations, some of which are listed below.
